Eating Birthday Cake with Your Bare Hands Doesn’t Make it Taste Better

by Jo on March 27, 2012

Last night

Trust me when I tell you I didn't look nearly as cute as she does when I ate that cake last night. Photo courtesy peasap

while everyone was deep in slumber

I tiptoed down the hallway

opened the fridge

and ate leftover birthday cake with my bare hands.

 

This morning

I woke up

shaking from the sugar rush

subdued by the shame

and

just like I used to do with the empty booze bottles

I cleaned up the evidence before anyone had a chance to see what I had done

 

But the problem is

I knew what I had done

 

Moms, this is especially for you.

Please, Oh Please, help stop the vicious cycle.

Be careful what you say in front of your children when it comes to food and weight.

Be careful what you say about yourself in front of your impressionable young girls.

 

Just.

Be careful.

 

I’m 34 years old

but when I eat the way I ate last night

I’m 9 again

sitting in my bedroom after ballet class

the door locked

shoving Neapolitan ice cream into my mouth at the speed of light

my belly hanging over my too-tight-tutu

and my pink leotard crawling into cracks it doesn’t belong in

while I think of the million reasons

I’ll never be

like Ashley White

(who sits next to me in homeroom and taunts me daily with her perfectly curled bangs doused in Aqua Net)

 

I should know better

and I should DO better

but food is the last thing I’ve got left

to abuse myself with

and don’t I HAVE to abuse myself somehow?

 

 

The other day I read about a mom who put her daughter on a year-long diet

 

the way she deprived her child

and gave food more power than it deserves

made me mad

made me scared for the little girl

made me picture her

locked in her bedroom

shoving ice cream into her mouth

and so I wrote about it here

 

Little girls shouldn’t be saying things like “That frosting looks really good but I can’t have any because it’ll make me fat,” at little girl birthday parties because they may turn into adult women who eat that frosting with their bare hands someday, but they do and I’ve heard them and I worry.

 

Don’t you?

 

 

 

 

 

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Tendai March 28, 2012 at 8:37 pm

I worry that society’s message that you can’t love or accept yourself if you are overweight will be stronger than what I teach. Really it is the continuation of the message of society only valuing those who are “perfect.” If you are disabled or fat or old or homeless or have a mental illness, etc you are out of luck and the masses want nothing to do with you.

The mom told her daughter that she wasn’t that fat little girl anymore and all is well with the world tra lala. But the girl countered with a great concrete, black and white answer that she was still the same. It seemed like while the mom was trying to reject/change her daughter’s weight she actually ended up rejecting her whole daughter. Plus teaching her daughter her poor body image and food hang ups. Ouch, maybe we are the most influential over our kids? Lord, help us and our children.

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Britton Minor April 1, 2012 at 7:57 pm

I love you, both the you I know now, and the little girl I wish I had known then.

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