“If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.” – Henry David Thoreau


Good ‘ol Henry sure knew what he was talking about, didn’t he?

If that quote doesn’t perfectly sum up our journey with our special needs son Andrew, then I don’t know what does.

This kid not only walks to a different beat

he IS the drummer, creating his own rhythm each and every day, unaffected that the world may not be listening to the same tune.

Those eyes slay me.


That can be pretty scary for a parent, knowing that your child cannot keep pace with his companions, that he doesn’t always hear the same music.


But then

your eye catches a glimpse of a greeting card in the middle of Trader Joe’s

and you are quickly reminded

that for the most part,

you prefer the sound of your son’s song anyway.

Seriously. Favorite greeting card EVER. Photo courtesy HannaMariah. Card courtesy Trader Joe's.



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